You Can Be Both

The other day at work when it was super dead I decided to do a little word exercise to try and trigger some more blog ideas. I would write down a descriptor word that I myself wanted to be and then I would pair it with another word that to some might almost seem like a contradictory word. I want to prove that you can be both. Humans are far from one-dimensional. Humans are very complex… all those feelings, emotions, thoughts, ideas, etc. floating around inside each and every one of us. We are never just one thing. So I wanted to share the list of some of the pairings I came up with. Some of the pairings that I aspire to attain each and every day. Pairings that make each of us a whole and rounded person full of life and surprises, never normal or predictable. I now say these to myself as self-affirmations and positive reminders to myself when the day is a bit bumpy. So I wanted to share so you could also remind yourself of these pairings.

 

You can be

Powerful AND Beautiful

You can be

Soft AND Fierce

You can be

Strong AND Caring

You can be

Confident AND Kind

You can be

Ambitions AND Empathetic

You can be

Loving AND Firm

You can be

Secure in Yourself AND Generous

You can be

Passionate about Life AND Enjoy the Moment

You can be

Magnificent AND Humble

You can be

Courageous AND Have Moments of Fear

You can

Care Deeply for Others AND Put Yourself First

You can be

Positive AND Have Moments when you struggle with doubt

You can be

Incredibly Happy AND Sad in the SAME DAY

You can be

Adventurous AND Want to have Moments of Quiet

You can be

A Good Listener AND Speak Your Mind when you feel the need

 

We are all so complex and never just one thing. I saw a quote the other day that said both honey and a wildfire are gold, both good and bad. There are always many facets and sides to everything and everyone. We all need to take the time to learn and embrace those sides of ourselves as well as others around us. We need to be accepting when someone is different from us. When we don’t always see eye to eye or agree on everything and that is okay! That’s what makes us human and makes life exciting. We need to be able though in ourselves to accept those differences and be secure in being fully and unapologetically human and ourselves. Never apologize for how you are feeling. It is not wrong to feel a certain way. It is not wrong to not always be the same or as others expect us to be. It is not wrong to change our mind about a certain thing and decide to do something different.

Life isn’t set in stone…. Life is like water, always moving, never exactly the same. Powerful and mysterious, water always seems to be a magnet for me. The items floating in the water, the shimmers of the ripples reflecting from the sun, the cool and refreshing feeling of standing in the water on a hot day, the calming sounds of the waves and currents, all beautiful aspects that add up to create something beautiful and mysterious. There is so much beauty in all the different pieces that come together to make a masterpiece. ALL the pieces that make up you, the good, the bad, the flaws, the differences, the quirks…. Everything. If we fiercely love everything about ourselves and embrace our flaws we are forces to be reckoned with. No one can ever use our flaws against us or try to bring us down because we are secure in ourselves.

Remember this:

 

I am worthy

I am loved

And

I am enough

 

S’Agapo

Photo By Stephan Bullard