It’s Okay to Care

Often enough I hear people talk about how they were just super caring and supportive to certain people and then just ended up getting hurt in the process. Honestly I hear this a lot. The person was blindsided by the other person’s actions. Then the people hurt get mad and start saying things like they wish they could stop caring or they need to stop caring so much. I have often enough been blindsided by other’s actions because I am a caring person. I care deeply and like to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, so when someone returns my caring with negativity I get hurt badly. Instead though of closing off I have learned over time to brush it off and get back up. My parents always raised us to get back up and keep trying. Be resilient and try again. You can take, however much time you need to heal and recoup just as long as you dust off and get right back up. So I just really really wanted to share that it’s okay to care, it’s okay to even care too much…. Love is incredible and we feel incredible getting to love others. Sure its crappy when we get treated badly back, but we need to remember that isn’t on us. That isn’t our fault, we are meant to care and be there for others even if it’s in the smallest ways.

I struggle sometimes with this idea of still just caring a lot for everyone even if you’re not always treated well back. I mean everyone does. I struggle with that fine line of wanting to care and being loving to everyone that crosses my path, but still care about myself and not allowing myself to be walked over or taken down a notch for being kind. There is definitely a fine line there and one that I spend a lot of time thinking about. There is so much grey area when it comes to this. I think in the end you can still care incredibly for others as well as caring so deeply for yourself. You can do both, because when you truly care for yourself and proudly show you love yourself and are secure in your person, then the other people around you will be drawn to that. There is something so magical about a person that is secure in themselves, but still so giving and caring. You can still care and be there for others without letting yourself be walked on. How can you do that though?

Saying no to people sometimes can be form of caring….. That might seem strange and in the moment the person could very well get mad at you, but if you feel that the action is not right for you or the other person in the long run and that doing something else that is better for the both of you would be the right way to go, then follow your gut. Trust that gut feeling you have if you don’t feel the action would be beneficial for either of you, if it makes you nervous or stressed then it is probably best to avoid. There is that feeling you get when you truly care and feel good about what is going on, that is the feeling to search for. That is the feeling to try and attain.

We will all get hurt along the road for caring, but I do honestly believe that caring too much should not be viewed negatively. Our world needs caring people, our world needs love, and people who want to be there for others. There will always be that one naysayer or negative person, but truly there will be so many more positive souls and appreciative people. Don’t let the one no stop you from seeing all the thousands of yeses. The positives will weight out the negatives and sometimes we have to search those out a bit more than we normally do, but they are there, and they are worth it. You just have to go on the journey of life and not let those bad experiences change you. Be willing to be open and care. Care as much as you want because in the end… you should never second-guess the love you are sharing. The real people will notice and appreciate and love on you right back.

S’Agapo

Photo by Michael Holt

18 Comments Add yours

  1. This is so true. For me, a big part of caring is being honest and some people just don’t respond well to that.

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    1. mjaquette says:

      Yeah but I feel in the long run if it’s the right thing it’ll work out! Xoxoxo

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  2. Gerard Potvin says:

    I have to say, I will not stop caring for people whether they deserve it or not. If they hurt me, that is on their conscious, but I will continue to be nice and support people with the hope that they turn themselves around. I can pick myself back up and continue, while others just might go dark and have a really hard time getting out. Honesty and caring, will always win in the end. That is why you will be coming out ahead more than everyone else out there. Keep shining your light, and the world will shine brighter because of you.

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    1. mjaquette says:

      Exactly! I so agree with you and will do the same thing.

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      1. Gerard Potvin says:

        That is because you are an amazing human being and make humanity better each and every day you are with us.

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  3. Linda says:

    Nice.

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    1. mjaquette says:

      😂😂😂

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  4. Sarah says:

    Great post! I’m with you… there’s nothing wrong with caring too much!

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    1. mjaquette says:

      Exactly!!! Xoxoxo

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  5. Unlearning the need to please people is a hard one especially when it seems to have been hard-wired into you from an early age. Saying “no” is hard too but its a tool to help you set boundaries and to say pleasing yourself is OK.

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    1. mjaquette says:

      Yeah it’s so okay to say no if you need to

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  6. I’m someone who naturally has a default ‘I care about you’ setting and even though someone may have hurt me, etc I will always hope for the best for them as I don’t believe in putting out negative vibes, but I won’t actively keep giving them my energy, that’s just allowing myself to be drained and used. However, if anyone ever needed some kindness and care and came to me, even though they may have caused me pain, I’d still show them love – but on my terms and in a way that doesn’t open me up again to being used, etc. I hope that all makes sense, haha!

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    1. mjaquette says:

      That totally makes sense! And I totally agree with you! I’m the same way

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  7. “Saying no to people sometimes can be form of caring…” – I AGREE! It took me years to realise setting boundaries is extremely important. There’s being helpful and there’s enabling a toxic cycle to continue.

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    1. mjaquette says:

      Exactly!!!! Xoxoxo

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  8. thefatalfemale says:

    I think remembering this is so important! It’s really easy for us to shut ourselves off after being hurt, but staying open to future experiences and happiness really does make everything easier in the long run. Thanks for the reminder!

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    1. mjaquette says:

      Xoxoxo thank you for reading!

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  9. Frank Dalziel says:

    Mikaela, this discussion about love and caring really resonates with me. I’m a romantic at heart and have always tried to seek out the good in people; sometimes to my detriment. But in the long run, it really is Okay to Care! I suppose getting hurt is a part of caring and love. Certainly not the best part, but a part. Sometimes, in spite of best intentions words are misunderstood or taken out of context. This is so very easy to do in the written language, but even easier to do when speaking to an acquaintance.

    So please continue to care. I know your heart overflows with wonderful thoughts. I find that is just incredibly attractive thing about you. You simply radiate beauty and sincerity. Such a wonderful quality to have that makes you a very special person. Never stop caring! Xoxo

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