So often in our busy busy world and life we forget to be in the moment. We keep looking towards the horizon and the plans ahead, and don’t stop to enjoy the memories that could be made in this present moment we’re in. We could be making connections with those around us, or enjoying some self-care for ourselves, but so often enough we are on our phones and are divided from making those memories. I know I am guilty of being on my phone a lot, but I truly try when I am around another person to put it away and give them my time AND attention. Being present and fully in the moment with another person is one of the most loving things you can do for someone. Time is precious and giving them your full attention shows them you truly care about them and want to give them your time. This goes for yourself too!!! Give yourself time and attention, no back burner love. You are so worthy of time and love.
Gestures of love are different for everyone. They can be grandiose and very noticeable or they can be small and simple. Whatever shows you truly care though, that is the important thing. Showing the other person you appreciate them. The biggest gift though is time. We don’t get time back! We don’t get to at the end of the time stop and rewind and get that evening or afternoon back to do as we please. No we are giving something to another person that will never happen again. We are sharing a part of us and being fully in that moment with them. Not being divided with everything around us. That very moment right there, that precious single moment… you have no idea what special memories you could be making with that person or yourself. So enjoy them! Enjoy every moment fully and with no regret.
This is like eye contact as well. Looking the person straight in the eye while talking to them, giving them your full attention and not looking off somewhere else distracted. Eye contact can definitely be scary sometimes because it is very personal. Eyes tell a lot and even without speaking you can often see how and what the other person is thinking just by looking into their eyes. I’m obsessed with eyes actually. They tell stories and truly share how you are feeling even more than words can in my opinion. It seems so simple to just give someone your eye contact, but in the long run it means so much. I know I for one really feel like the other person is hearing me when we connect with our eyes. You see they understand and care, before they even say anything! Truly magical. Xo
We do not want to live with regret. We don’t want to live with the what if or the I lost my opportunity in that moment. That is why being fully present is so important. Having all your senses aware of your situation and surrounds. Creating memories with your complete self. Taking in the sounds, the smells, the sights, the feelings or the person you are there with. Take it all in and enjoy it. Treasure that moment with that person because you won’t ever have a moment exactly like that again. Do not miss a thing! Treasure that moment with yourself as well. Give yourself time and don’t put yourself last. You need to remember yourself as well.
So often we get caught up in the what is happening after this moment too. Where do I have to be, am I going to be on time, speaking of time what time is it…. Etc. Distractions like that take away from the memory being made NOW. Of course you want to make sure your next plan is ready and you’ll be on time for things, but don’t allow those thoughts to completely take away from the experience being had now. Maybe be aware of the time or check it once or twice, but just briefly and then return to the moment at hand. Don’t focus on the time and let that take over the memories being created in the NOW. Looking back later you can easily regret that then. Regret that you kept checking the time instead of making that solid connection with the person across from you. Glancing at your phone too much instead of locking eyes with the person right in front of you. Don’t miss those beautiful opportunities. Those opportunities to create those memories in person and really live life in the moment with no constrictions or distractions.
I just wanted this actually to be a short and sweet post. A post that got right to the point and was a reminder for all of us, myself included, that time is precious. Making memories with the people we care about and giving them our full attention and time is important. That is realness. Those are the bonds that are so strong because of their realness. Those are the memories and people we don’t forget about easily. We have given them our time, because we honestly truly care. We have wanted to connect with them and be fully and completely in the moment with them! I know when people do that with me I feel so special and love every minute of that memory being created. So get out and enjoy the time with the people you care about. Get out and give yourself time too, take yourself out to a café or something…. Don’t let the distractions around you take away from the moment at hand. The present connections and self care and love being made RIGHT NOW. The beautiful now…. The eye contact, the happy real smiles, the hugs, the interactions. These are so special and so under rated I feel. Time is precious and fleeting so share it with the ones you love and nourishing yourself as well. Make memories filled with no what-ifs. Memories that will last you a lifetime! Xoxo
Photo by Michael Holt