The Final Say is Yours

There is no one we need to change for, but ourselves. There is no one we need to alter ourselves for to fit into their mold and idea of us. No one… We can listen to other’s opinions and hear them out, but in the end WE have the final say when it comes to what is best for us. If something doesn’t feel right to you, if some idea by someone else makes you feel less like yourself and more a clone of the “perfect” person… then you do not have to do that thing. Live your own life, embrace your differences, love everyone around you, and try and find the good in everything. If only life were that simple right? If only….

We have that power though….. We are enough and really should only grow and change naturally through whatever life hands us. Not because we are too different for a certain person or even a society. Wear those fun crazy pants and who cares who stares on the streets. Sing and jam out to that awesome song on the store radio because why not!? Be proud in having a different viewpoint and opinion from someone else because then that can open the floor to an amazing discussion if the other person is open. Lift heavy weights and push yourself in the gym even if you run up against people telling you to train differently or you’ll get “too bulky.” Everyone has an opinion… that’s what makes this world such a unique and exciting place. All the opinions and ideas are what make this world go round, what make this world a brand new place every single morning. We can share our opinions, but we should never force them on others. Never force ideas onto other people, never try to make your happiness exactly what someone else’s happiness has to look like. If everyone in the world was a 2.0 version of someone else, always adhering to other’s opinions…. We’d have even more sad people that we already do.

Often enough if we think about the opinions given to us to change us as well, they often can come across negatively… Other’s might not always see these ideas as negative, but if you are trying to put someone in your cookie cutter mold and cut off all their little unique bits here and there that to me is negativity. Instead we just need to try to live everyday unique, happy, and ourselves. Sure we might not always be perfect, we might slip up a lot, or lose our way for a bit, but at least we’re trying. We are living…. That is what life is all about…. The getting right back up, brushing yourself off and moving forward. The journey! The naysayers and outside opinions might not understand your journey, but that’s okay. It’s not their journey, it is yours!

Become so confident and secure in yourself, your uniqueness, your specialness, everything that makes you yourself, because if you do that then no opinion, no rejection, no other idea, no outside view can sway you from staying true to yourself. Don’t trade your authenticity for someone else’s approval, because in the long run if you are trading in you then that approval is not worth it. Plain and simple…. It is just really not worth it. Respect other’s ideas, opinions, viewpoints, but don’t bow down to them. You can hear and listen to someone and even see where they are coming from, but that doesn’t mean you have to obey them blindly and change to their standards.

I saw a quote recently that really spoke to me.. “God had a purpose for you before anyone had an opinion about you.” We all were made for a purpose; we all have different goals and dreams to follow. People’s opinions are usually just based on one tiny sliver of us and they think they know the real us from just that tiny bit. They think they have a place to change you…. Remember your purpose; remember what makes you happy and alive. Be proud of you, your quirks, your beliefs, your strength, your kindness… the list could go on forever. Stand up for all those amazing attributes that add up to one whole amazing person. AND remember the final say is yours… don’t ever let anyone take that from you.

 

S’Agapo

 

Picture By Jason Coon

 

 

13 Comments Add yours

  1. thethoughtsthatbind says:

    I love this so much. We need all sorts of people in this world, and that includes you! It’s very important that people grow from a genuine place, and in a way that is satisfying and exciting for them. I love that you’re encouraging people to stay authentic and inspired!

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    1. mjaquette says:

      yes! Thank you so much for reading and sharing such an amazing comment. I totally agree with you.

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  2. I needed this post today. Thank you, as always, for being yourself in your writing.

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    1. mjaquette says:

      Aaah I’m so glad you were able to read it! Xo

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  3. Frank D says:

    Wow Mikaela: Your blog really resonates with me. Wishing I was a beneficiary of your wisdom many years ago. I fell into so many of the traps you mentioned and didn’t come out unscathed. I’m getting better now and in part due to your incredible advice on so many things in life. I’m learning to live in the present, but it has been a difficult journey to shake the past. Thanks for your lovely words.

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    1. mjaquette says:

      Oh wow I’m so glad it resonated with you! AND that you are reading and liking my other blogs as well. That really means so much to me! THank you so much. xo

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  4. I love this! I think confidence comes with age but I wish I’d had your attitude when I was in my 20s.

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    1. mjaquette says:

      Thank you so much love!!!

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  5. Monch Weller says:

    The easiest way to please nobody is trying to please everybody. When it comes to criticism, however – make use of the good and throw away the bad.

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    1. mjaquette says:

      And follow your gut!

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  6. Listen to everyone, but do what is best for yourself because nobody knows you better than you yourself. So yes, the final say should always be yours. A great read, Mik! (:

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    1. mjaquette says:

      Yes!!! Thank you 😊

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  7. Frank D says:

    Mikaela: You have tremendous views on life for a young woman. So open and accepting of all. I recall missing many learning opportunities when I was young and more close-minded. But can only look forward now. Your writing is tremendous! Thanks! 👍🥰🥰❤️

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